When men hear the word dominant, they confuse it with the word manhood. Now, not only is one an adjective and the other a noun but the two have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with one another definition wise either. Most of the books written for men these days on the topic of dating are pretty much geared towards coaching men to fail at dominating women. Sorry to say, but it’s true. And I mean no disrespect. Some of them make a few good points but they still miss the point.

My question to you is this… If 90% of sperm is meant to KILL other sperm, could it be that the very people you seek counsel from are your opponents? How can they possibly help you if their very nature is to kill you on sight?

You want women? I have an idea for you, start talking to women.  You can begin with me. The following exercise  will spark the beginning of your new dating life. We are not going to fix you in any way shape or form. I’m not saying to not take care of yourself, and look your best. You should of course do that for yourself. But we are going to put emphasis on finding what it is YOU want. No more changing yourself, and running lines on the ladies, let’s switch the power a bit. How about this idea? We are going to sit back, relax and decide which women are good enough for you. 

Which paragraph gives you a hard on? Don’t think, just read.

Scene One…And ACTION

You’re in a room. You are tied to a chair and blind folded. You have no idea what is going on or how you got there. But you can hear breathing. Suddenly your blindfold is ripped off and in front of you stands the hottest girl you have seen in a very long time. She’s wearing nothing but panties. Her long hair covers most of her nipples…most. She puts one firm thigh on the outside on your left leg and another on the outside of your right. She smells of vanilla. You slowly look up at her. Their is no remorse in her eyes as she glares down at you. You are about to get it.

Take Two…And ACTION

You’re standing in a room. There is a girl blindfolded on the floor wearing nothing but panties, on her knees in front of you. She is sitting on her feet with her hands behind her back. She is nervous and you can tell, this definitely arouses you. When you take her blindfold off her she turns her head around and her sweet eyes look up at you with caution. You can hear her breathing get heavier. She’s about to get it, she knows it and you can tell how badly she wants it.

Which Scene Got You Hot? 

If you picked the first scene, HOT. You are looking for a strong, hot woman to dominate you.  Maybe you run the show in the work place, you are always calling the shots. But behind closed doors you are looking for a girl who can challenge you and ultimately put you in your place.

OK So What Now?  The good news is a lot of dominant women I have come across are stunning. Keep your eye on the girl at the bar who is watching everyone. You’ll know by the way she stands and sits what she’s all about. When you make eye contact with her, try to look nervous. Smile and look away. Wash, rinse and repeat. But not too often though. She will come to you. {If she doesn’t, she’s not the kind of woman who is going to take charge enough to really get you off. Or she could be taken.} When you start conversing, you’ll do most of the talking. She’ll watch you, study you…let her.

If you picked the Second Scene, HOT. You like to dominate women. Maybe you’re a teddy bear on the outside, a quality individual all the way around. When you get behind closed doors you like to own it. You run the show. If you’re doing it right you like it when she is a bit nervous but you’re turned on by the fact that she trusts you, and she doesn’t go there for just anyone.

So what NOW?  Well first you might want to read 3 Quick And Easy Ways To Pick Up A Girl At A Bar. Especially pay attention to#1. Once you see a buy signal from a girl, go for it. Cocky will get you nowhere, there’s a nervous overcompensating energy about that. But subtle confidence is just the ingredient. She’ll do most of the talking. Listen. Come at it with the intention of figuring out if this person is worth your time and you hers.

If you think both are hot, boy are you for a treat. You get to do both you lucky bastard;) 

You may want to read How To Attract The Perfect Mate. This will explain to a T exactly how dominant you are and exactly how submissive you are. But you’ve got the blend baby. I’m a Versatile Top myself. And I love my life.

Hope you had fun reading. I’m an innocent bystander in all of this. I am all about the ladies. We play the same game pretty much only for a different team. Huge shout out to my submissive men and my dominant women though. When it comes to people watching I love everybody but I love you just a little extra;)

Have fun out there;)

#1) Claim To Be A Good Cook
Last night I went to a couple of Bars in Hollywood. I live in San Francisco, but I’m visiting L.A. right now. My friend is straight, and she is gorgeous. I’m a lesbian. We went out to a couple of bars to grab a few drinks and catch up. Every bar it was another series of different men trying to pick us up… and failing.This brought me back to a night I had at THE BAR on Castro, “Ladies Night” a few weeks back. I met a girl there that I thought was beautiful and we ended up really hitting it off. I became intrigued as to why  my outting was a success and why these men failed so horribly. I’m no Don Juan, so what was so different about my approach?

 #1) Pay Less Attention To Your Pick Up Line And More Attention To Her Body Language

Failure: The two men who approached us at “Happy Endings” on Sunset last night missed the boat on this one.  THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE! My friend and I were talking about something important. When they approached us I watched as both my friend and I glanced over at them, immediately looked away and made eye contact with one another in a way that read “Oh brother, let the night begin.” This is not a good sign.

Success:  I was actually ready to leave the bar, I happened to glance in the direction of Michelle and we made eye contact. I looked away, but she was so pretty I had to look back at her. Her eyes lingered and she smiled. When someone looks away and then looks back and lingers it’s a REALLY good sign. When someone’s eyes linger without looking away, it’s a good sign as well. This is what I mean by paying attention to the body language. This is going to happen in a matter of seconds, no one is going to stare you down at a bar, it will be a glance or series of glances. We can’t help what we like, and our very first reaction will tell it all. You don’t have to trust what happens after that, because at that moment women will become aware of how they are feeling and may block it for whatever reason they have (trust issues, in a relationship, etc.)

#2) At This Point They Are Interested, So Keep It Simple…NO TACTICS!

Failure: The first guy that came up had the “I’m gay, let me measure your index and pointer finger to see what kind of woman you are” tactic. The other guy’s line was “I’m a virgin and my mother made me come out tonight to talk to women.” So, they failed the first test, and now they are going in for the kill with obvious tactics and strategies. You ever wonder why women get annoyed by guys? It’s simple, we didn’t want to talk to them in the first place and now we are bombarded by their aggressive tactics. If this were a man coming onto you how quickly would you get irritated or rude? Are you starting to get how we feel now? It’s not pleasant. And it’s embarrassing.

Success:  I’m a very straight forward person. I usually can’t help what comes out of my mouth so I don’t even really try to think about it. But, Michelle already expressed some sort of interest, so really all that’s left is to just be natural. This is part 2. You have to be yourself because if it’s not going to work, then it’s not going to work. Keep it natural. No lines. Your focus should be on whether or not YOU like this person’s personality, not on how You are coming across to THEM. When you try to show off, or put on a dog and pony show you give that person the power by pretty much saying “Oh OK I’ll do anything to please you.” Instead of, ‘”Hmm this girl is pretty, let’s see if she’s as cool as she is beautiful.”You need to look out for yourself here. I just asked Michelle what her name was and said “Michelle, you are a very pretty girl.” Then I asked her if she wanted a drink. When we hear a compliment from someone we like, it’s flattering. When we don’t like you and you pay us compliments it’s annoying. That’s just how it is.

 #3)Listen! 

Failure: At this point the other guy was trying everything in his power to pull my friend aside and dance. She was clearly not interested. And his friend was talking with me about some game in which you point out guys you would sleep with, marry or kill. At this point I said, “We have to look at girls, because I ONLY like girls.”…
ONLY like girls…let’s try that again…ONLY like girls. Guys, lesbians are not your fantasy, we’re your competition. There is nothing attractive about two girls who DO NOT WANT YOU. One is bad enough, but 2? That’s a double blow to the ego. At this point the guy I was talking to should have walked away. Since he didn’t I walked away for him.

Success: I just listened to what Michelle had to say. She is an illustrator, lives in Sweden. I like how bold she is, and she is even sexier than I thought at first. Lucky for us we both felt the same way. We hit it off and the rest is history.

Remember, nothing should get to #3 if #1 is not working. Start going after women who are attracted to you. If you are not attracted to people who are attracted to you, it’s time to start wondering if you even like yourself. If you don’t, then how could you expect other people to?

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